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Demand creates supply. And what is it that you, my dear readers, want to hear from counsellors and other relationship experts? You want to hear about the "magic pill", about "5 easy steps", about "how to build a good relationship in 3 months", "how to make a man/woman fall for you" and so on. And of course the market duly dumps a pile of rubbish information on you, just to satisfy your demand. And you nod along, pleased and happy, and gladly hand over your money to be fooled one more time!

In an interview with the Italian magazine "Chi", Elisabetta Canalis describes her relationship with her former boyfriend George Clooney as "a father-and-daughter relationship". Marriage and children were therefore never discussed. Whether the relationship between the 30-year-old model and the 20-year-old actor broke down because of the age gap is still an open question. Yet the problems Canalis reports are far from untypical for the pairing of young women and older men.

The question of fathers and sons has of course been a live one in every age. And today any parent asks themselves a great many questions about upbringing, understanding and their relationship with their children. And on those poor parents rains down an unimaginable quantity of advice, answers, instruction and recommendations from teachers, counsellors, doctors…..

Everyone needs a place where they feel safe, secure and welcome. Everyone longs for a place where they can relax and be themselves. Ideally that place is the parental home you grew up in. Where you felt accepted and loved by your parents. From childhood we take in this feeling of being accepted and welcome as a fundamentally positive attitude to life, one that stays with us as adults as well. We have confidence in ourselves and we are able to trust other people. This is also called basic trust.