Stories about phlegmatics just like you
As an introvert, you know yourself, your feelings, your sensations and your states inside out. It is through your own sensations that you explore the world around you. You tend to take the observer’s position, noting every small thing and detail precisely, analysing the situation and not particularly wanting to influence it in any way. You handle risk far more carefully than many of the people you know, you are most likely not going to lose your head over climbing the career ladder, and you try to choose the more dependable and safer paths, routes and decisions. While others rush about selling people on themselves, on their overvalued ideas, or on both at once, you will watch it all, chuckle to yourself and do what you need to do and what suits you. What sets you apart is composure and consistency, the ability to work with figures and facts, self-possession and a very sensible approach to anything you take on. You know how to bring order to chaos, to find a system in everything and to see the essence of things more deeply and more clearly. You are that island of stability in a sea of foolishness, irrationality and emotion; you ‘keep your head when all about you are losing theirs’ and, of course, you are always true to yourself. You see things as they are.
These stories are about phlegmatics just like you. About how they met their other halves, how they complemented each other and what it was that drew them to each other. The way a relationship develops depends on our temperament and character. Perhaps you will recognise yourself in the people in these stories and find something of your own relationship in them. And if you would like to know more about yourself (and, perhaps, about the partner who suits you), there is a contact form at the end of every story.
Perfect relationships
These relationships are as ideal as it gets. They take a minimum of energy, time and emotion for sorting things out, settling scores and negotiating. The partners complement each other and give each other the kind of support that goes without saying — and the main thing: it costs them nothing.
Let us call this a maximally harmonious couple — a combination of personality types that calls for the least conscious work on the relationship.
Second-best marriage
These relationships are pretty good too! The personality types are compatible; only here you have to realise that about once a month the relationship will have to be built and kept up. That is, you have to do something you could otherwise have skipped entirely.
A second-best union is a union in which living well together takes the ability to reach agreement, or a certain set of ground rules.
So-so relationships
Two homebodies have shut themselves away at home. For a very long time. The thing is, one of them will have to leave the house and go out into society, that is, to take turns at not being themselves. And that is the puzzle facing couples like this...
Utopian marriage
Unions like this are almost never seen, and when they do come about, they develop with difficulty. A relationship is possible if both partners are emotionally balanced and each of them takes a turn at changing their role.
A utopian union is a union in which the relationship develops with great difficulty and friction, despite the formal compatibility of the types. Here it is easier to stay friends.
