Stories about melancholics just like you
You are an extravert who cares about harmony, friendship, relationships, family, home, children — and world peace probably would not go amiss either. You need contact with others, because it is through contact with the world that you get to know yourself far better. You handle risk much more carefully than most of the people you know, you are unlikely to go mad chasing a career, and you try to choose the more reliable and safer paths, routes and decisions. You can always be relied on. You value love and kindness, and, for all your outward calm, you will go a long way for the people close to you. What people value in you is your sensitivity, your care for others, your selflessness — and at the same time your good sense and caution.
These stories are about melancholics just like you. About how they met their other halves, how the two of them complemented each other and what drew them to each other. The way a relationship develops depends on our temperament and character. Perhaps you will recognise yourself in the characters of these stories and find something in common with your own relationship. And if you would like to learn more about yourself (and, perhaps, about the partner who suits you), there is a contact form at the end of every story.
Perfect relationships
These relationships are as ideal as it gets. They take a minimum of energy, time and emotion for sorting things out, settling scores and negotiating. The partners complement each other and give each other the kind of support that goes without saying — and the main thing: it costs them nothing.
Let us call this a maximally harmonious couple — a combination of personality types that calls for the least conscious work on the relationship.
Second-best marriage
These relationships are pretty good too! The personality types are compatible; only here you have to realise that about once a month the relationship will have to be built and kept up. That is, you have to do something you could otherwise have skipped entirely.
A second-best union is a union in which living well together takes the ability to reach agreement, or a certain set of ground rules.
So-so relationships
Two homebodies have shut themselves away at home. For a very long time. The thing is, one of them will have to leave the house and go out into society, that is, to take turns at not being themselves. And that is the puzzle facing couples like this...
Utopian marriage
Unions like this are almost never seen, and when they do come about, they develop with difficulty. A relationship is possible if both partners are emotionally balanced and each of them takes a turn at changing their role.
A utopian union is a union in which the relationship develops with great difficulty and friction, despite the formal compatibility of the types. Here it is easier to stay friends.
