Stories about choleric women just like you
As an introvert, you know yourself, your feelings, your sensations and your states inside out. It is through your own sensations that you explore the world around you - while never forgetting to create all sorts of situations along the way, not always comfortable for those around you, to take up a fair amount of space, to make noise and kick up a fuss when it is called for (and strictly only then), and to head stubbornly for your goals, ignoring obstacles and barriers as you go. Obstacles, by the way, inspire you and give you a lift. You are a fighter by nature: what sets you apart is decisiveness, drive, the effectiveness of your actions, pragmatism, clear goal-setting and the ability to throw yourself into a task, work it out and get to the bottom of it. You will not fritter yourself away on trifles; you know how to solve problems and reach the goals you have set. You value intelligence, logic, knowledge, decisiveness, willpower and the overcoming of your own weaknesses, and you dislike restrictions and sloppiness.
These stories are about cholerics just like you. About how they met their other halves, how they complemented each other and what it was that drew them to each other. The way a relationship develops depends on our temperament and character. Perhaps you will recognise yourself in the people in these stories and find something of your own relationship in them. And if you would like to know more about yourself (and, perhaps, about the partner who suits you), there is a contact form at the end of every story.
Perfect relationships
These relationships are as ideal as it gets. They take a minimum of energy, time and emotion for sorting things out, settling scores and negotiating. The partners complement each other and give each other the kind of support that goes without saying — and the main thing: it costs them nothing.
Let us call this a maximally harmonious couple — a combination of personality types that calls for the least conscious work on the relationship.
Second-best marriage
These relationships are pretty good too! The personality types are compatible; only here you have to realise that about once a month the relationship will have to be built and kept up. That is, you have to do something you could otherwise have skipped entirely.
A second-best union is a union in which living well together takes the ability to reach agreement, or a certain set of ground rules.
So-so relationships
Two homebodies have shut themselves away at home. For a very long time. The thing is, one of them will have to leave the house and go out into society, that is, to take turns at not being themselves. And that is the puzzle facing couples like this...
Utopian marriage
Unions like this are almost never seen, and when they do come about, they develop with difficulty. A relationship is possible if both partners are emotionally balanced and each of them takes a turn at changing their role.
A utopian union is a union in which the relationship develops with great difficulty and friction, despite the formal compatibility of the types. Here it is easier to stay friends.
