How do you size a person up?
Toxic people. People it makes sense to avoid. People you would rather not talk to. How do you spot them? What should put us on our guard about someone?
Articles
Limiting beliefs. The top 12 thoughts for making yourself miserable without any outside help
How should you think about the world in order to become miserable without any outside help? There is a list of beliefs for that, and each of them breeds a mental disorder of its own. These are irrational beliefs phrased as "musts". If you hear the word MUST in yourself or in others, combined with EVERYONE, EVERYWHERE or ALWAYS, there is something to think about.
Why is it so hard to say no — and what can you do about it?
‘They have asked me to come in to work — could you please look after my daughter? Yours will have more fun that way,’ your friend asks. And you had been counting on finally getting some rest that day. But you do not want to let your friend down either — she helps you out sometimes too.
Should you date a neurotic?
Sadly, I hear this question with enviable regularity, in all sorts of shapes and forms. Sometimes it is that it would be nice to set up a dating agency for people who have been through therapy, for ‘non-neurotics’; sometimes it is how to protect yourself from so-called ‘arseholes’; sometimes it is complaints that there are so many of them... And when yesterday yet another client asked me in conversation how you can spot a neurotic so as not to date one, I realised the article was overdue.
