For all the emphasis on proving one's independence, every decision and every action still depends on how others rate them. Behaviour and decisions are driven by the wish to please and to charm as many people as possible. Self-enchantment. A focus on one's own beauty of soul and personality, on one's depth and “love” for people. A teacherly streak. The conviction that the world, other people and oneself must be changed “for the better”.

Disharmonious and Conflict-Prone Traits

1. All-consuming interest in oneself, which narrows the perception of reality (the “navel of the world”, “I am a gift”).
2. Militant feminism (independence).
3. Capriciousness.
4. A tireless pressing and prompting of others to underline how unique, special, extraordinary and beautiful they are — “top marks”.
5. Never says no in society, at work, to acquaintances and friends — but does say no at home, to those closest.
6. Acting out the wish to remake the world, to save it, to make it “better” (without the other side's permission).
7. Keeping a wide circle of admirers and an entourage, flirting — while avoiding real, deep intimacy.
8. While proving their independence, they prefer to keep those closest to them — and as many “inner circle” people as possible — on an emotional leash.
9. A tireless drive to remake the world, other people and themselves in the direction of “goodness”, attractiveness and approval.

Harmonious Traits

1. Sociable, easy to talk to, open.
2. The life and soul of any gathering. Able to charm anyone and anything.
3. Beauty, charm, charisma.
4. Glad to give of themselves generously — their company, their beauty and their skill.
5. Never refuse, always ready to help, always there when help is needed.
6. Cheerful, positive, energetic, infectious.
7. Magnificent showmen and toastmasters (tamada).
8. Good-natured mentoring and teaching.
9. Sexuality.
10. Romanticism.
11. A “self-made person” — no one is better at building, sculpting and playing the image of a successful, attractive human being.

Fears, Sources of Displeasure

1. A negative attitude towards their personality; indifference
2. Being unremarkable (in soul, in personality)
3. Criticism of their behaviour and so on
4. Intimacy (as a form of dependence)
5. Failure, lack of success, “messing up”
6. Falling short of expectations, being laughed at in public.

Sources of Pleasure

1. Others recognising their uniqueness and their merits; enchanted looks, the admiration of fans, admirers, acquaintances, family, colleagues, bosses and so on.
2. A large number of enchanted admirers, an entourage.
3. Mentoring others.
4. The feeling, the sense of “independence”.
5. Success (building their image and succeeding).
6. Hikes, trips, travel.
7. Parties, socialising, moving in a wide circle of people.
8. “The main thing is that it's beautiful” (that is, that everything they do is rated as attractive).

Careers (Comfortable, Self-Actualizing)

1. Famous actors (the good heroes).
2. Singers, performers, showmen, dancers, sex symbols.
3. Doctors, rescue workers, benefactors, patrons of the arts.
4. Mentors, teachers (including spiritual ones)
5. Politicians who follow the party line with all their heart and want to remake the world “for the better”.
6. Soldiers of the romantic sort.
7. Teachers who love children.
8. Lawyers (where you have to be able to charm the jury)

Games – Roles – Manipulations

1. The “Baywatch lifeguards”
2. Great lovers, true machos, sex symbols
3. Princes on white horses
4. The princes who leave their brides for the Hundred Years' War
5. Charming, unattainable ladies, geishas
6. Navels of the world, human gifts, superstars
7. Feminists fighting for “independence”

Appearance

Irresistible, sexy, fresh, energetic

Motor Activity

Aimed at provoking admiration in those around them

Personality Development (Paths)

1. Telling apart the notions of Intimacy and Independence, of Independence and living together.
2. Understanding that “someone may not like me, others may rate me badly, and that does not make me any worse”, “I do not have to charm everyone”.
3. Noticing other people besides themselves — without trying to please them.
4. Understanding that kindness, care and love look different in different people.
5. Understanding that the World is kind as it is and does not have to be remade.
6. Talking to people is not only about charming each other; friendship is not only about mutual help and rescue