Stories about phlegmatics just like you
As an introvert, you know yourself, your feelings, your sensations and your states of mind perfectly well. It is through your own sensations that you explore the world around you. You are more likely to take the observer's seat, noting every little thing and detail, analysing the situation and not particularly striving to influence it. You handle risk far more carefully than most people you know; you are unlikely to lose your head over climbing the career ladder, and you prefer to choose the more reliable and safer paths, roads and solutions. While others rush back and forth, hard-selling people on themselves, on their overvalued ideas, or on both at once, you will take a look at it all, chuckle to yourself and do what is right and worthwhile for you. What sets you apart is calm and consistency, an ability to work with figures and facts, composure and a very sensible approach to any task. You know how to bring order to chaos, to find a system in everything and to see the essence of things more deeply and more clearly. You are that very island of stability in a sea of foolishness, irrationality and emotion; you ‘keep your head when all about you are losing theirs’ and, of course, you are always true to yourself. You see things as they are.
These stories are about phlegmatics just like you. About how they met their other halves, how the two of them complemented each other and what it was that drew them in. The way a relationship develops depends on our temperament and our character. You may well recognise yourself in the people in these stories and find something in common with your own relationships. And if you would like to learn more about yourself (and, perhaps, about the partner who suits you), there is a contact form for us at the end of every story.
Perfect relationships
These relationships are as ideal as it gets. They take a minimum of energy, time and emotion for sorting things out, settling scores and negotiating. The partners complement each other and give each other the kind of support that goes without saying — and the main thing: it costs them nothing.
Let us call this a maximally harmonious couple — a combination of personality types that calls for the least conscious work on the relationship.
Second-best marriage
These relationships are pretty good too! The personality types are compatible; only here you have to realise that about once a month the relationship will have to be built and kept up. That is, you have to do something you could otherwise have skipped entirely.
A second-best union is a union in which living well together takes the ability to reach agreement, or a certain set of ground rules.
So-so relationships
Two homebodies have shut themselves away at home. For a very long time. The thing is, one of them will have to leave the house and go out into society, that is, to take turns at not being themselves. And that is the puzzle facing couples like this...
Utopian marriage
Unions like this are almost never seen, and when they do come about, they develop with difficulty. A relationship is possible if both partners are emotionally balanced and each of them takes a turn at changing their role.
A utopian union is a union in which the relationship develops with great difficulty and friction, despite the formal compatibility of the types. Here it is easier to stay friends.
